Forgiveness and Thankfulness~~ Impossible in Abuse??

The Abuse Expose' with Secret Angel

This is for the many who have been abused and struggle with forgiving those who have hurt them.  Forgiveness is not easy… and it does not happen overnight. It comes in layers over time as healing occurs.  It is a necessary part of healing and sets us free from the hurts of our past, helping us to walk freely into our futures. However, sometimes it takes divine intervention to help us to get to this point. Then we can thank the Lord for getting us through our struggles and using it and us to help others as we answer His call.

Forgiveness and thankfulness…
seem impossible when we’re abused.
How can we forgive and be thankful…
as we are harassed and misused?
How can we let go of the anger…
and the pain that builds up inside…
when we search for love and kindness…
or even a peaceful place to…

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Removing the Thorn


(Repost. I will not remove this post for anyone.)

Toxic people in your life will greatly impact your mood and the way you feel about yourself. We call these people thorns, who will take a lot more than a strong pair of tweezers to pull out. Nice on the outside but poisonous within, these people are no good to have in your life if you want to improve yourself, and it will take strength, courage and self-love to do so. From first hand knowledge, the effect of social toxicity lowered my self esteem and created problems within myself that I didn’t know were there. It is important that you remove these people from your life before they can have any major effects on you as a person.

Signs you should remove the thorn:

  1. You feel exhausted after seeing them. Not just tired, but emotionally and mentally exhausted from their behaviour.
  2. They…

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5 Things I Hate About Today’s Relationships

So perceptive & well-written

An Honest Twenty Something

5 Things I Hate About Today’s Relationships…

I don’t know how YOU feel, but the pressure to be perfect in this day in age is extraordinarily high. I hate almost everything about the world now. Sure, that may sound mildly negative, but can you blame me? Being a twenty something in today’s society is hard. Really. Fucking. Hard. Add being a female on top of that and you’ve got yourself a full blown soap opera…
I guess what I’m trying to say is that females’ have it harder. Sorry. But we do.
The double standards, the “ideal beauty”, and the whole concept of “rape culture”…it sickens me.
Yes, men have some of these issues too, but if you actually deny that women struggle with society more than men do, then I think you need to open your eyes, mind, and ears. Maybe even your heart.
This is my way…

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Why I’m Not “Good People”

Jenny's Library

I’m not a nice person.

I’m not a good person.

I’m not a kind person.

This isn’t to say that I don’t ever try to be any of these three things.  I do, especially the last two.

It’s more to say that, for me, surviving in this cissexist, racist, ableist, heteronormative, classist, often fucked up world of ours has involved rejecting the idea that “good” and “bad” are static states of being.  I will never be a “good person” because, to me, “good” is not something that you achieve.  It’s an ongoing process that never ends.

It is, in fact, almost impossible not to be doing bad things as well as good when you are human and therefore flawed.  Especially when you are part of a messed up system, as we all are.

This, to me, is why it’s important to call out bad behavior, or hurtful language, or even…

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The Finger, or “Bird Is the Word”

Strong Language

Nixon did it, and so did Kennedy. George W. Bush has been caught numerous times on tape grinning broadly and flashing what he called the “one-finger salute.” It has been described as “flipping someone off” or “giving someone the bird,” but when it comes right down to it, the gesture of raising the middle finger ultimately translates as “fuck you!” Every nation has its own array of verbal assaults, but they also have their arsenal of insulting gestures as well. In the United States, the ubiquitous finger is our call to arms. Unlike swearing aloud, which is based upon actual words with specific meanings, gestures are purely visual, and the finger has a kind of inherent meaning that words don’t have. In our case, the raised finger was initially most likely meant to resemble the erect penis, with the tucked-under fingers as testicles. As obvious as this may be, few…

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